Probably my biggest challenge in the process of maintaining a stable happy core is to not take things personally.
Human beings can lift you to elation or accommodate you in deep sadness, hardly ever on purpose. Most of us have been on both sides, taking turns. It’s life.
We are capable of great things if we live in a positive and safe environment, but we can still survive in the poorest and most negative ones as long as we maintain a stable core.
Have you read “Man’s search for meaning”? It is a chronicle about survival and hope. We all know deep down what our purpose in life is, even if we get trapped into a completely unrelated lifestyle or distance ourselves from our true nature, either as a form of sacrifice or just a wrong turn. The answer is always there. We know what we can do to be happy, and as a consequence, be a positive influence for our family, friends and the community that we are part of. As longs as we keep this in mind, our soul will remain unharmed by any hardship.
It is very difficult to interpret what’s behind the sadness that we feel when someone hurts us. Is it the ego, craving to have utter control over every person that we cross path with or the crave to receive back as much as we give or simply being over sensitive to the lack of truth or empathy?
No matter what feeds the negativity or bad feelings around it, the cycle has to be broken. Behind every act of cowardliness, violence and anger lies a deep feeling of insecurity and a great amount of pain. We are indeed capable to do a lot of harm but yet most of us choose to do and live by the exact opposite. We chose love over hate, generosity over meanness and altruism over selfishness. Traveling alone made me realise that most of the people around me are good people and the world is not scary, despite the exceptions that confirm the rule. I cannot count the amount of times that complete strangers chose, without thinking twice, to share with me their most precious possessions: time, care and unconditioned love.
What I need to do is focus on the good, be kind and patient to myself and understand that whatever comes my way it is not personal. It is just a reflection of a given state of mind at that specific point in time. Each and everyone of us is going through some sort of transition or change and in the process of becoming, we might hurt the ones around us or get hurt in the same manner. Acknowledging this and most of all – remembering it, will allow me to work on my personal growth, forgive and move on.
This is my view for the next two weeks. I wake up, watch the sunrise each day and climb the roof to see the sunset on the other side, where the jungle starts. Once again, my heart remembers how to expand, be grateful and send as much love as I can, back to where it belongs.