Have you ever felt super sh*tty but some stranger gave you a smile and you instantly forgot about all your trivial worries and felt perfectly fine again? That’s what I call magic. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work by browsing selfies.
I read an article a few weeks ago about Zuckerberg getting a conscience and working intensely this year on reducing and filtering fake news and properly endorsing the independent publishers. He also changed the algorithm in order to populate our Facebook walls with news from friends first and everything else after. I wonder if this is related to my decision to temporarily quit social media…?
And since we’re at it, my chubby sense of entitlement drove me back to the mother platform, to share my oh-so-wise reflections, in the hopes that someone could benefit from them.
I’ll start by saying that my life did not finish when I stopped posting and sharing. I still travelled like a maniac (imagine that), and literally around the world in the last 3 months. I’ll show you a little bit later.
Are you curious to know how it feels after two years of full time travel and 40 countries later? Freaking awesome AF and tiring AF. 700+ days without a return ticket. No home, no day the same. No single regret.
Perhaps, still the less glamorous and strongest feeling is gratefulness; for being able to see so much beauty it hurts. (New Zealand blew my mind away just to mention one piece of heaven). For being able to go and do what I want when I want to. For being able to test myself and my limits and for understanding and accepting that there is no perfect choice or perfect place or perfect way of being.
Each accomplishment comes with so much sacrifice and work and the high of it lasts less than an orgasm. There is no flawless community or person who figured things more than you or I did. I’ve seen many excel in their work but quite terrible when it comes to social life or the way they treat themselves. Whether it is obvious or not, everybody is trying to figure things out and they’re quite active at it. Feel free to contradict me with examples of perfect individuals.
I’ve also seen disenchantment and confusion in many living the nomad or any dream. I’ve seen all these things in myself at times. So, I got pissed. And after I got pissed, I was finally relieved.
Now you’ve done it, G! You did everything you wanted and more, you fast-forwarded a lifetime of emotions; dozens of countries and more memories and experiences than one can hold. You opened the Pandora and found beautiful sceneries, interesting people, good stories and life lessons, good flight fares, but no trace of the secret of the universe. What are you going to do now? Chase some more countries? Wake up, work, explore, read, sleep and repeat? Until you’ve visited the whole planet and you’re ready to move on to the next one? Maybe I will! 😋
I’ll save you a costly retreat with a life coach or more of an appropriate professional and tell you what I found: a state of the art merry-go-round! You will continue to inevitably suffer no matter how much money you make, how awesome your carrier is, how many trips you take or how many friends or kids or houses you have. You will continue to suffer no matter how many adventures you have, how many things you accomplish or learn; no matter how many people acknowledge you or whatever it is that you are trying to achieve. Suffering is part of the human condition. It actually defines us. Suffering is creation. The higher you rise, the clearer it gets. But it doesn’t have to hurt that bad if you make peace with it.
If you live a life worth living you will gracefully come to terms with the fact that there’s no higher meaning, purpose or after-life orgies in paradise. Try to be a cool person now and put a smile on someone’s face and give love as often as you can. Make everyone’s life easier, yours included. If you’re miserable, just know that this is not how it’s supposed to be and you have to do something about your life. Change whatever needs to be changed and face whatever fear you need to face in order to find some peace.
Mark Manson laid the cards on the table and stated that the ultimate freedom is commitment. It’s damn true. Make sure you commit and suffer for whatever feels right for you. Start figuring it out and act upon it as soon as possible. It won’t get better than this and by doing otherwise… it will only get worse. Be sure to invest in your life. Work is important, being involved in something is important, people are important but most of all, your life is important. Make sure you actually get to LIVE. Your life, the way you want it, not someone else’s. If you want to change (the world), this is the only way to do it.
So cheerios, Pandora! I know what happiness is and I also know that lack of happiness is kind of the same thing. I know I have a place in this world, no matter where that is. I know it’s ok if things don’t make much sense and that’s fine.
The world is mine and it will stay this way in my highs, lows and in betweens. 🙂
Every feeling you get to experience, no matter how common, how good or bad, is your biggest privilege. It means that you’re still breathing. It means that you are still alive. That alone should make you crazy happy. And as relevant and important as anyone else. As vulnerable and badass as anyone else.
So, back to the topic; did I miss Facebook? Yes, sometimes I want to ride the fluffy virtual cloud by browsing for one hour straight and get dizzy from all the pixels, look at my brother’s amazing photos, have my mom show me the things she paints, read the #poveste of the day from Anca or get inspiration from people living their dream or trying to change the world for the better, any way they can.
That said, dear social media heavy users or not, I do hope you are still making an effort to actually meet someone every now and then. Hear their story without switching to automatic mode.
Take a break from networking, selling, bragging or complaining (use Facebook and Instagram for that). In real life, make that eye contact, be present, smile and give as much as you can.
Thanks for reading and let’s catch up! 😉