In my last year of Swedish nesting, I used to meditate every morning, with recordings from The Honest Guys (they are awesome, btw). It was the first thing I did after petting my cat. I felt that each day had a great potential of dreadness, and that I needed some sort of daily mantra to keep me sane and balanced. It helped of course, but it didn’t propel bliss out of my heart’s chambers. To put it bluntly, I wasn’t at all happy with my life. I wanted to travel the world. No meditation, technique, walk in the woods, fitness program, book or YouTube tutorial could have made me zen about the lack of fulfilment of my life-long dream.
This is my recipe on how to fix oneself without doubting every single thought that comes to mind, including self-flagellation.
- Don’t change your mindset, but trust it more.
- Change your life, instead.
- Remove what doesn’t work and replace it with hard work towards your big goal.
- Appreciate all the good things that you have.
- Separate them in a pile and pack that with you in your next endeavour.
- Do what you want to do or don’t stop until you get to do what you want to do.
- The journey will be as satisfying as the result itself.
You have 3 options: my way, your way or the highway to nowhere. Roaming the world is not the solution, but how I personally feel like living my life. And it should never be in fashion. I find it’s very educational and empowering, but not the secret to happiness. Chances are that a normal life fits the criteria just the same, with far less efforts and resources. I know it sounds very cliché, but please welcome every day with excitement. Build a life where you will have enough elements to be thrilled for, from Mon to Sun.
- Mondays can be good because you get to see your office mates.
- Tuesdays can be good because you exercised and you’re a sexy badass.
- Wednesdays can be good because you are having coffee or a glass of wine with your friends.
- Thursdays can be good because you’re planning a movie or book night.
- Fridays can be good because you have a whole week of accomplishments behind.
- Saturdays can be good because you can take a stroll in town and have a mini adventure.
- Sundays can be good because you get to have lunch with your family and share some love.
There shouldn’t be any compromise on the uniqueness of each day. We are not here to make a point out of modern life’s impairments, but to use our right to freedom and the opportunity to develop in the right direction. Each day can be special for something. And it will be. You just have to focus more on the right element, as opposed to routine or responsibilities.
Once your daily vision is improved, you can work on how to fine tune your serenity channel. How to appreciate happiness and love, and how to not be afraid of feelings such as sadness, confusion or loneliness. The powerful awareness of movement, wander and complete submission to all the beauty in this world is made of a multitude of opposite feelings, just like colors inside a kaleidoscope. All emotions are welcome. They are the trigger to the birth of really good and productive ideas; a much needed drive to sweep life off its feet.
Today and for the last 3 years, I don’t have to take meditation pills. I have a self-regulated mechanism of emotional balance that allows me to appreciate each thought for what it is. It works 24h a day. It makes sure I don’t demonize negative emotions, but acknowledge them without judging and without fear. I feel comfortable with showing and sharing them, just like I do with my boasting happiness.
In my eyes, my life comes out as a beautiful poem.
And the reason I wrote all this, is you. Because I hope you feel the same or you will do anything in your power to feel the same.